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All You Need is Love and Then Some
It takes more than love to make a relationship work. The older I grow, the more I realize I have been lied to. All those Mills & Boon romantic novels I read as a teenager could not have in any way prepared me for real life experiences of relationships. It dawned on me that I was deceived by Hollywood as well, happily ever after is not always so happy after couples walk off the isle. Oh don’t get me started on all those love songs, I’m so sick of them. They in no way encompass the ups and downs and intricacies of relationships. In short, all they describe as love…
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Why Are Black Women Not Getting Married?
Why is there so much societal pressure on black women to get married, as if it is their fault that they are not getting married? It seems perfectly rational to blame a single woman for being single but there are several ways to look at it instead of assuming she can’t get a man. What if it’s not about just getting a man but getting the right man? With the insane divorce rate that keeps rising, why do we expect women to jump into matrimony with the first guy that comes along? We say things like, “she should have focused on marriage when she was younger, when a lot of…
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The Best Quote I’ve Ever Heard About Love
Love isn’t sacrificing something for the other person, it’s accomplishing something _ (It’s Okay That’s Love, Jo In Sung.) As a young woman in this contemporary society, there’s a conscious side of me always pondering the question of what I would have to give up in order to live the kind of life my culture and society expects of me? The other day a woman asked me what I was studying in college and what I intend to do with it. I don’t get too thrilled when certain people ask me these questions, but I always try to give an honest answer. The woman listened on and appeared interested in…
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Ìwà lẹwà (Character is Beauty)
Ìwà lẹwà is a saying in the Yoruba language that I did not quite understand until recently. There are many such similar proverbs. The Yoruba people pride themselves on being well cultured, and full of deep ancestral wisdom. There is always an idiom, proverb or folklore readily available to be applied to any circumstance. There are proverbs for wayward children and also for dutiful ones. There are several proverbs for a good person and similarly for an evil person. For every human experience, behavior or circumstance, there is a proverb in Yoruba that can be applied. Hardly will the elders make a statement without it being inclusive of some adage…
