A couple of months back when I wrote the blog post All You Need is Love and Then Some, I did not realize just how true those words are. The foundation of every relationship should be love. I have often emphasized that couples should not get married for any other reason. Marriage is not worth it when couples do not love each other. But the older and more experienced I grow, I realize it actually takes more than love. Because while it is good to have a solid foundation on which to build our relationship, it does not end there. If you have read The Colorful Path, you’ll see that…

What are you willing to give up for your marriage? This question I pondered as a woman about to take that next step towards marriage. Recognizing the fact that as I close that Single chapter of my life, I open another one which very much connotes loss of freedom. Singleness is viewed upon as a period in one’s life when one is free. While marriage implies a surrendering of that freedom. I have a difficult time understanding people whose best friend is someone other than their spouses. I can’t imagine why someone in a committed relationship would want anyone to be closer to their partner than they are. Particularly, if…

I am not married. I feel a need to make this declaration, although I doubt it has much bearing on my perspective. I can’t wait for the man who will marry me. I simply can’t wait. As a single woman however, I am surprised that more people are not challenging my position on marriage. Instead, I have received praises and nods of agreement. I think my position on marriage is pretty clear and you can read more about that in my new book The Colorful Path. But in summary, I believe marriage is a beautiful institution created by God, it is the ultimate demonstration of love and it is not…

Does true love exist? This question I pondered as I watched a clip of an old Caucasian couple who have been married for 79 years. A friend had sent me the video with the caption “this is so beautiful.” I watched the entire video which lasted for about three minutes, and then read some of the comments people had posted about it on Facebook, they were full of hearts and flowers. Positively mushy. I agreed, it was a beautiful story. But I was also quick to denounce such sentimental expressions that make our eyes misty and our hearts flutter. I find it fascinating how my generation gush over stories like…