Are Women Desperate, or Are Men Delusional?

In this fiery episode of Altars and Agendas, we take a bold step into one of the most divisive conversations in modern relationships:

Are men the prize?

In Nigerian culture—and many others—there’s a growing narrative that women are desperate for marriage while men are now the ones being chased.
But what if that’s not the full picture?

What if the real issue isn’t desperation… but disillusionment on both sides?

💔 A Personal Story

I shared a story about dating a man who assumed I wouldn’t leave—even after he messed up—because he believed I was desperate for marriage. He thought men were the prize, and women should be grateful.

When I walked away, his shock wasn’t just about rejection. It was about the myth collapsing.

👀 Singleness, Pressure & Public Opinion

Let’s talk about how exhausting singleness can be when everyone thinks it’s their business.

From unsolicited prayers to matchmaking attempts (“I know someone in Abuja—he’s not tall, but…”), women are often treated like their value expires without a husband.

Yet some of the same voices screaming “men are the prize” are also the ones panicking about single women. Pick a side.

🧠 Not a War, But a Wake-Up Call

This episode doesn’t pit men against women.
It asks a better question:

What if neither gender is the prize?
What if the prize is the partnership?

Because when we treat love like a competition, everybody loses.

🎧 Listen Now

“Are Women Desperate, or Are Men Delusional?” — streaming now.

This episode is for you if:

• You’re tired of the “who brings more to the table” debates.
• You’ve ever been pressured into settling.
• You’re ready to rebuild how we view love, dating, and value.

🗣 Drop your thoughts in the comments.
📌 And remember: We don’t do culture wars. We do sacred tension.