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Taking Feminism Too Far
I was recently engaged in a casual conversation with a reader who had seen my “About” page and thought it was unfair for me to refer to myself as an “occasional feminist”. You can’t be on both sides of the fence the person said, you have to take a stance, it’s either you are a feminist or you’re not. This was not the first time someone had approached me about how I chose to describe myself. A friend had previously challenged me for stating that I was a “realistic hopeless romantic”, after a series of friendly squabbles we both concurred that I am more of a realistic romantic than a hopeless…
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Is It Better To Love With Your Head Than To Fall In Love?
“I love you” “I’m in love with you” there’s a small difference, the heart. Love is a choice but it’s not always that clean-cut. After seeing a few people completely screwed over by love, I’ll say love is not a tidy affair at all. I realize how pompous I have been when it comes to matters of the heart, always thinking it’s that easy to get over someone and move on with your life. Well I made a major discovery this week, I have never been in love before. I have loved, but my head has always been in control, so I have never completely lost it to someone, but…
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Why Do Marriages Fail?
Questions like this often plague me as an unmarried woman looking to fall in love and be with that person forever, but here goes reality again, ever after often has an end date nowadays. I would like to think couples do mean it when they make that vow that promises till death do us apart, but as life goes on, somewhere along the line, they begin to lose faith in those words. Staying apart for some reason seems like a better alternative to being together. We begin to hear such words as “irreconcilable differences”. What this simply means is that their love has died. Yes love can die and do…
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Guys Here’s How To Please A Woman
So this week I picked up We Should All be Feminists by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie. I have had the book for a while but I have not made the time to read it. But I finally decided to read it because I needed it as a source for an essay I plan on writing for my gender and sexuality studies class. It’s always a breadth of fresh air reading Adichie, there’s always something in her writing that just gives you immense satisfaction, similar to the one I imagine people get after a good sex. I am still reading the book and there are lots of ideas there that I will still expand…
