• Singlesness

    Is There Such a Thing as Mister or Miss Right?

    As a woman in her mid-twenties, now seems about right to really begin to sift out “the one”. I was having a conversation with a potential future groom earlier this month, and he wanted to know my level of readiness for marriage. Well, there I was thinking I’m ready, but what does readiness really mean? I have had one or two guys tell me I’m not ready. But how dare they judge me by their standards? Just because I don’t want to be with them does not mean I’m not ready when the right person comes along. And therein lies the crux of my conversation with the said prospect. I…

  • Singlesness

    The Pursuit of Wholeness

    In the pursuit of wholeness, we must reach within to rediscover who we are and align ourselves with our God given purpose and calling. This, many fail to do and instead chase after other people’s notions about who they are or ought to be. The unfortunate result of this is the identity crisis many in our society are experiencing. The television series “Obsessed with the Kardashians” is a prime example of how confused some of us are about our identity. Emulating others can of course be beneficial, if what we are emulating is their good moral disposition, excellent work ethic, their noteworthy values or other admirable qualities. But we must…

  • Singlesness

    The Pursuit of Singleness

    I was walking home from work on a summer eve last year when I received  the inspiration for a new book. It came as a single word. I’d hopped off the train and opted for a lengthy walk the last couple of miles it took to get to my house. I fancy such walks not just as a needed exercise but as a means to declutter my mind. At the time, I did not realize how much I needed to be found. I had ended a relationship the previous year, hastily walked into another which had also ended right before that summer and I was on the verge of yet…