I am a huge Korean Drama fan. They have been my companion since teenage-hood, helping to keep boredom at bay and filling my heads with images of what the bond between a man and woman should look like in reality, but is often not. However, I believe if the human mind is so good as to come up with such blissful onscreen romance, then surely, we are indeed capable of having such successful relationships in real life. The question then is why do we fail to? Why is our world not full of real love stories that seem too good to be true?   One of my favorite K drama…

Dear Love, If only love was all it took to make it work, then we wouldn’t need patience, kindness, faith, endurance and perseverance. There will be no assumptions that I will meet your needs and you’ll meet mine. We’ll just come together to stay together with motives devoid of ego. Not needing assurance, a sense of security and comfort because all we need is love. We’d expect nothing in return for all we give because love has no expectations. I would not expect you to call me back because I called you. I would not expect you to support me because I support you. I would not expect you to…

“What about mad love and undying passion?” “Affection and comfortable lust are better.” Vanessa Grant, If You Loved me. I was reading a romance novel when I came across these lines. I haven’t picked up a romantic book in a while, but they are my go to when I need the assurance that true love does exist. Whether in fiction or real life, it matters not. What is central is that if the human mind can conjure up such passion as we encounter on the pages of a good book, then surely it must be within our means to attain it. This conclusion is all the comfort I need as…

Lately, I have met a lot of happy and interesting people. These are people who in spite of their sad situations have chosen to be happy. I’ve laid emphasis on the word “chosen”, for happiness is a choice. I consider myself privileged to have people (virtually strangers) confide in me about some of their most painful circumstances, particularly the failure of a relationship. Each and everyone of us, even the most conservative of us have experienced this at one time or another (except for those lucky few), and there are varying degrees of distraughting emotions that take place depending on the level of attachment. For instance, a divorce may be more…