Is a question many of us single ladies are asking ourselves. Some women have already resigned themselves to the fate of solitariness. They have settled for endless dating that never yield permanency, sex with strangers now and then, an empty crib with nothing but cats to snuggle up with, and marriage to a career that will never bring full fulfillment. But some of us want more! We want biceps and triceps to cuddle up with in bed every night (not cats!). We want commitment, we want love, we want relationship, we want to share not just our bodies but our minds and deepest thoughts with another person and we want…

The older I grow the more I realize my stance is changing on a lot of things. I used to think an encounter with an attractive opposite sex has to lead to a potential date, and every date has to lead to a courtship and a courtship has to lead to marriage. So from the initial encounter with a person I find attractive, marriage is always at the back of my mind. Always thinking about marriage as the end goal naturally sends my mind into so many calculations that drastically limits how I let the encounter progress. If at the moment I meet a guy, I start thinking of him…